He has made me see the strength in myself as well! I mean, yes based on what I want in life, it would be hard for me to be with someone in a wheelchair. The uncomfortable scenarios were endless and my self-conscious brain was starting to freak out. Thank you for this list and sorry this was so long. Just how the fuck was this going to work? Can you imagine having a long term relationship with someone who is paralyzed? I believe he has had enough hurt in his life time. I have been dating a paraplegic guy for about 1 and half yrs now. Same great body, silky hair, personality. Clearly, you have never met a real disabled person before.
Would he lift himself out of his chair and into the seat? Plus, you could never make love. This attitude of his and the way he sees life, has inspired me and i just want to look like him. Everything has healed perfectly and there are absolutely no signs of brain damage but I am now paralyzed from my chest down. Some lessons have been life altering, some lessons have hurt physically and some lessons leave us in a fit of laughter. Would he stay in his chair and park in the aisle? Well I'm back to this topic and I'll be brutally honest.
There is nothing they find more frustrating than people helping them do things that they can do themselves…like open the door, or put their chair in their vehicle. There's no reason to think that just because a few girls from who knows where wouldn't, doesn't mean that right girl is out there for you, I mean there are so many people in this world, do you really think there is not one girl out there that will accept you for you? Although, it took over a year with him losing more and more feeling as days went on to finally be told why. Due to limited or zero sensation, being aware of cuts, bruises and sores is very important. I still wonder how he is doing now. Loving him has been the best thing for me.
I don't really know anybody who has been paralyzed, so I can't say the situation has ever come up. As a , this is something I hold true. There is still a lot of work to do to make this world more wheelchair friendly. I would love to bare his children and be a holding part of his family. If you are new to the world of wheelchairs your life has probably been filled with new experiences and new information.
Duchenne results in progressive loss of strength and is caused by a mutation in the gene that encodes for dystrophin. It is difficult to say at this point how much of me ending things with this man is attributable to his physical disability, and how much of it is because of my own shit—still being hung up on Brooklyn, giving my heart time to be in complete disarray in the midst of my divorce—but the sad and shameful truth is that in some way, it did matter to me. Your list hit so many things on the head. We had some great times, laughed our butts off. I have literally tried everything like dating sites, mutual friends, Facebook, etc. Sounds kind of messed up but I have also wanted to have a friendship with someone who was blind because I am sure their perspective would be refreshing.
Before we knew our men on wheels we thought if you were paralyzed it meant from the waist down. What if the only tables available are high-tops? A skin issue gone unnoticed could be critical and lead to a hospital visit. You learn quickly to hold your tongue and move on. GodLovesDead There are soooo many things I want to say to you right now but of course I can't because i'd be banned. We learned very quickly that this is not the case. I have had a low self esteem because the chair has held me back from having confidence. Thank you so much for your message! Come on, you could never have sex, do anything active, or go up stairs! We messaged back and forth, like you do on the personals, until the conversation led into marathon racing.
He has spino bifida but what caused him to not be able to feel his lower half anymore was diagnosed as sarcoidosis of the spine which we were told was rare. I have a very hard time talking to people let alone women. I stumbled upon this old post a little by chance. Some are pity stares, some are curious and some are just downright rude. But to get there, we communicated a lot. We got on so well and I really like him. Said with honesty and humour as always.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 years and he has been in a wheelchair for 5 of them. Like another person said, and I agree, it wouldn't stop me from being friends with someone, and someone else may think that way and all the best relationships stem from friendship! His resiliency astounds me daily. On our second date, I wore a short spring dress and cowgirl boots, picked up poutine, and drove to his place. He was 30 minutes over the time but a generous lady anonymously gave the money for him to get one and he should have it to start training when winter is over. I feel like I have been waiting forever. I was given a 40% chance of survival and, if I did survive, I was expected to have brain damage from the cerebral hemorrhaging.